In many families, loyalty isn’t just valued—it’s mandatory. Without question, respect your elders. Don’t challenge or question your parents.

Most of us were taught that good communication in relationships means learning how to talk more—explaining ourselves better, using the right word choice and fully expressing how we feel. But in close relationships, especially during moments of tension, more talking is often not the solution. In fact, it can worsen things. From a PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) perspective, the real goal during conflict isn’t perfect communication—it’s mutual relief and safety.